A gag is not just something that you use on your other half to keep them quiet while you watch the Voice or your favorite sports. It is also something that is used quite extensively in BDSM. Many people get off on seeing their partner restrained and gagged, while many submissive partners enjoy being gagged in all manner of different ways.
Gags come in all sorts of different forms from a soft silk tie tied around the head and across the mouth through to all sorts of devilish looking leather, rubber and silicone contraptions that can block your airway or even leave your mouth held open wide to be used as your partner wishes.
One reason for using a gag is to restrict breathing from the mouth so that you are forced to only breathe through your nose. During heavy sex and play you may find that you are just not drawing in enough air. This will often lead to a far more intense orgasm no matter what sex you are.
As with any other sort of dominance play many practicing will want to use a safe word to ensure that things stop when it becomes too much. Of course if you are gagged and bound that can be a little difficult. Few gags however can fully silence you, so most couples agree on three quick grunts or something similar as a safe word when playing.
Always use gags safely. They do restrict breathing and most will cause you to salivate uncontrollably which in some positions can trigger your gag reflex, as can the actual gag itself, which could cause vomiting. So never leave someone alone gagged.
Like any other toy of course you need to keep them clean, having a gag held in your mouth for a prolonged length of time is going to leave your gag covered in all sorts of things. It is always advisable to clean your toys fully before and after you get down to play to keep things hygienic and safe.
Selecting the right gag for you can be difficult, the following selections with descriptions will help you to understand what you need for your particular fantasy play:
A ball gag is an excellent way to get into the scene. This is a beginners ball gag with a diameter of about 1.7” allowing it to fit just right behind the teeth without too much discomfort but still preventing you from closing your mouth. The ball is also breathable so you can still easily suck air through it so you will not be suffocating if you have a cold or if your partner is sat on your nose.
The strap allows you to buckle the ball in place with the right amount of tension for you. It also comes with a padlock, but it can be used without it if preferred. Being made from silicone with a leather strap it is easy to keep clean as well as being non toxic in use.
If you want something a little bigger to bite down on, as my partner keeps requesting, then you may wish to try this ball gag. The ball if a full 2” in diameter which means it is going to fill your mouth well and keep you salivating. The ball is made out of silicone which means that you are not going to be biting chunks out of it if you feel the urge to bite down hard, nor will you be doing yourself any hard on it.
This is a gag that will keep the noise down if you have been upsetting the neighbors recently and want to stop your other half from screaming away as they normally do. This is not a breathable ball either so ensure that you do not leave anyone tied up in this alone.
One issue that many find with any form of gag is that they often chafe the corners of your mouth when they are strapped in nice and tight. This type of ball gag fits into the mouth in a slightly different way and the sides of the ball extend out over the corner of the mouth so that the silicone prevents damage to the side of the mouth.
So if comfort is something that you are looking for as you are being dominated and humiliated then this is the one for you. You are not going to have any sore marks on the sides of your mouth to explain to your work colleagues on a Monday morning.
Not everyone wants a ball shoved into their mouth to keep them quiet in their nosiest moments. One alternative is a bit gag that fits across the mouth holding it open while still restricting your breathing somewhat. These are also perfect for pony play if you want your partner to pretend to be Pinkie Pie as you tighten the bit into their mouth.
As it is made of silicone most people will not notice any unpleasant taste or smell and it is very simple to keep clean. This is perfect for humiliating the wearer if that is your intention and gives a great look when worn for dressage.
Of course if you want to treat your partner more like a dog than a little pony then you may want something that looks a little different. Gagging your partner with this 6 inch long and 1 inch wide bone will help you with training them. This is a perfect toy if your pet has issues with house training or is lacking in obedience and you want to sort them out. Made of silicone you can bite down on it without causing damage to either it or your own teeth.
Being made of silicone it is also comfortable enough to wear for lengthy training sessions with your pet without causing any unnecessary suffering or damage. However if your actual dog is anything like ours do not leave this laying around where they can find it or that excessive drool may not be your own.
For those of you that are looking for something a little more sensual and romantic than being strapped up with leather then this could be where you want to start. The soft bit is not oversized so is perfect for the beginner and the soft silk ties are something that can be tightened as you start to play together enhancing the sensual feel of what you are doing. Perfect if your partner has spent too much time reading and dreaming about 50 shades.
This is the perfect place to start if you are just getting into BDSM play and do not want anything too heavy or potentially painful.
Want to keep your partner really quiet as you go about your business? Then this could be what you are looking for. Slip this butterfly clamp into their, or your own, mouth and give a few pumps and it will quickly swell up to restrict the flow of air through the mouth. Far more effective than oranges if you are thinking of going into politics.
This gag can be used on its own or even paired with an open mouth type gag or harness to ensure that there is no chance of it slipping out. Do remember that this gag is going to prevent them from breathing through the mouth, so do not over inflate. Deflation is simple and quick but please do make sure that you know how before you start to use it.
If you want to keep your partner quiet with a dick firmly in their mouth then this could be the right gag for you. Rather than a ball or bit this gag with firmly insert a dildo into their open mouth to keep it filled as you continue on with your BDSM play. Perfect for those that love oral play within their sessions or want to fully humiliate their partner.
This gag is very easy to clean being made fully from silicone, you can even put it in the dishwasher although you may want to make sure that the lodger or the kids are not the ones to unload in the morning.
If you love the feel of a dick swelling up inside your mouth then this inflatable gag could be just right for you. Easy to strap on you can place the dick firmly into their mouth and then with a few quick pumps fill their mouth entirely to restrict their ability to breathe through the mouth. The pump is easy to use and will keep the pressure reliably and you can also quickly release it with just a twist of the mechanism.
This is actually perfect for the mother in-law if you can get her to wear it, after just a few pumps it is just about impossible to speak. So perfect if you want your partner to be silent throughout your play, or just fancy a quiet night.
You want to keep them quiet while they fuck you deep and hard? This dual gag and dildo fits a cock shaped plug into the wearers mouth and has a good sized dildo to either make them look like a real dick head or to provide you with added pleasure.
You can have them lay back and lower yourself onto the dildo protruding from their mouth and ride them that way, but do be careful that you don’t suffocate them too much if you get carried away. Alternatively you can lay back and draw them onto you to enjoy some penetration from the dildo as they struggle to breathe through the gag. As with all toys of this type ensure that you clean it thoroughly before and after use for your own safety.
For those of you that fantasize about being laid back in the dentist’s chair with your mouth held wide open this is for you. Alternatively if you absolutely hate the dentist then this could really be your ultimate nightmare.
This open mouth gag looks and feels like it could be used very much as a torture device and is perfect for many BDSM fantasy games. You could easily have your partner restrained and then slowly ratchet open the gag over time to widen their mouth as they find it harder and harder to contain the drool that is bound to form in their mouth.
As with all other gags use it safely and do not leave your partner alone while wearing it. The ratchet does have a quick release so it is easy to quickly close this mechanism back up and ease off the pressure.
If you really want to strap up your lovers head and use it as you will then this could be the gag for you. The inside of the gag protrudes into the mouth to hold it open while you have the option to either open or plug the hole depending on your intentions.
You can use this harness style gag with other inflatable gags or on its own as it still very much restricts the wearers ability to speak while allowing them to make muffled sounds as you do what you like to them. The ideas as to what you could feed through into their wide open mouth are of course endless.
If you really want that mouth open wide for a little deep throat action then a spider gag could be what you are looking for. Made of metal this will ensure that your partner is totally unable to close their mouth keeping it wide open for your pleasure no matter what that pleasure may be.
For those a little more experienced with BDSM that know what they are looking for this gag is a perfect addition to your bedroom kit. It is strong and easy to clean so it will keep you happy for a long time. But do remember to use it safely and set up a safe word that is non verbal; such as three taps or some other signal that will let you know it is time to stop.